Friday, September 21, 2012

on it being hard

a friend, with 4 kids, was having a conversation with another lady.
the lady asked if having 4 was hard.
my friend answered yes.
the other lady said "you are the first person to be honest with me."
i've had the same conversation with the same lady.
i told her 5 kids wasn't hard.
i'm sure she thought i was pretending to be all super mom-ish.
but i wasn't.
that is true for me.
she didn't ask me about having a 4th baby.
she would've gotten a completely different response!

anyways, those conversations got me to thinking.

having my 1st baby was easy.
having a 2nd baby was easy. 
then we moved to a new city when he was 6 months old.  that was hard.
having a 3rd baby was hard.
i had a newborn, a 2 and 3 year old and a husband that worked all.the.time.
having the 4th baby was beyond hard.
i had a newborn that wanted to be held most of the day, a sweet 18 month old, a wild 3 year old, a wild 4 year old and a husband that still worked all.the.time.
it stayed hard until the baby was about 2 years old.
that was a hard 3.5 long years.

it had started getting easier - bronson was 4 and connor was 2.5 here.

but, adding a 5th baby has been easy.
easy peasy to be exact.

my big boys were 7, 8, 10 and 11 years old when bo christian was born. 
when i was on bed rest, the boys could mostly take care of themselves.
when the baby was born my husband took 6 weeks off of work.
and my boys help me with the baby a lot.
my husband is home more now than ever.
and i have some great friends too.

bauer 7, caden 6, bronson 4, connor had just turned 3
 what i have decided is that there is not a number of children when it all the sudden gets hard.  I think it depends on lots of different things - like how much help you have, your mental and emotional state, the personality of the baby, how independent your other children are, the other responsibilities that you have, and the list could go on and on and on...

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